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Think You're Scared To Approach Or Meet Girls?
There is a simple thing that men can do to boost their confront on approaching women and meeting women.
Whenever you feel uncomfortable in any scenario, it means that you are approaching this circumstance on too high a gradient. Rather than trying to escape from the situation, reduce the gradient.
What are gradients? Gradients are like steps on a ladder. By trying to skip to the top of the ladder on your first step, it will be difficult to accomplish, and you will fail. If you continue trying it repeatedly you will start building up a complex about failing, and soon not make an effort anymore.
If you try to skip up five or six steps on your first attempt, it will also be scary -- certainly not impossible but terrifying. And the probability is that if you have no experience jumping that high you will fail .
The proper approach is to take the first step and then advance one-step at a time. It is the most comfortable approach to climb a step ladder.
While I was a young guy I would notice a lady I was attracted to and believed I had to express to her just how much I liked her right away. Well that was leaping up too many steps on the ladder. I didn't even know her.
The first step is a straightforward "Hi" and a smile. Then keep walking. Get comfortable simply saying "Hi" to young ladies. Then as step two when they say "Hi" back or ask you a question, reply to the question, or comment on something that she has her interest on to continue the conversation. For example, if you are in a book shop and she is taking a look at a book on cooking, ask her what she thinks of that book. Is it worthwhile?
Conversations develop naturally. Do not push it. Get to know her prior to deciding that you like her.
Needless to say, there is a whole lot more to it, but these are good basics to begin with. If you are using gradients eventually you will know how to meet women.
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